Pathological Liar Goes So Far That He Gets Cut Off By His Brother

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Dec 12, 2022 2:00 PM EST

Talk about not being your brother's keeper! This guy learned early on that his brother was a pathological liar, but after years and years of being ignored by his parents about it and being subjected to several serious lies, he decided to cut his brother off.

 

This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AmiTheA**hole subreddit by u/This-War7732, and well, the drama did not stop there. The original poster goes on to explain what happened to his brother after their falling out, including his brother's marriage, further lies that he told at work and in his family life, and his currently unstable situation with his kids. Clearly, these lies have gone too far, and it's not the Redditor's responsibility to take this on. However, the brother definitely has a problem that needs work.

 

Keep scrolling below for the full story and for the best comments. For more, check out this post about a needy mother-in-law. 

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  • 01
    Font - AITA for telling my parents that my brother is facing the consequences of his actions and I'll never help him? My brother is a pathological liar. He has been almost as long as I have known him (it started when he was 7- 8 years old). I have been on the other end of his lies more than once. I was two years older so was always supposed to forgive once I'd get an apology from him, which was always forced by our parents. Some of the lies in childhood I was subjected to:
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  • 02
    Font - that I cheated on one long term girlfriend and slept with her best friend, that I had stolen my best friend's dad's family ring (it was stolen for real but not by me), that I had given him permission to use my locker in school (which our high school did not allow), that I went out with friends when I was home, in my room. The lie that made me cut him out of my life happened when we were 20 and 22. I had just moved in with my then long term girlfriend.
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    Font - She and I had been together for almost 3 years at that point. My brother then told her that I had fathered a child with one of my ex- girlfriend's and that I had abandoned my child so I could get girls easier. She believed him enough that even when she realized she was wrong, the relationship was broken beyond repair.
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    Font - I told my brother after this that I never wanted to see him again, that he was dead to me and I hoped one day his life would fall apart because of all his sick lies. His response was we were family and I couldn't disown him forever. I told him family are the people you love and how could I love someone like him.
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    Font - It's been 15 years since that went down. I got married to my wonderful wife, we have four amazing children together and I have not seen my brother since. I also have a strained relationship with my parents because I do blame them for not taking care of the problem a lot sooner.
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    Font - So this is what I know. But I don't really care so some details could be wrong. My brother was married. He lied a lot to his wife and her parents. His wife was sort of aware of what he was like, her parents were not. He and his wife had children together and they lived in a house owned by the wife's parents. His wife died suddenly and some of my brother's lies were exposed. His wife's parents did not want him in their house and kicked him out. They also kept all of his wife's stuff and de
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  • 07
    Font - They offered to raise his children but he refused. Then he lost his job because of lies. My parents took him and the kids in. Now they want us to make up and they want me to help him out. I told him he got what he deserves and now he is facing the consequences of his actions and that I'll never ever help him. I told them he is not my family, his kids are not my family and I am nothing to do with this. They asked how I could turn my back on innocent children. AITA?
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    Font - crockofpot 6 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [33] . NTA. Your parents "turned their backs" on a child by enabling your brother to grow up the way he did. (I know there are cases where parents can do everything "right" and the child still grows up into an hole, but in this case, they clearly allowed OP's brother to grow up into a little monster.) They also turned their backs on you by trying to force forgiveness. They have some nerve to cry to you about the consequences now. 3.4k Reply Share
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    Font - HockGuiSwim312. 5 hr. ago Agree 100% I do truly feel really bad for the brothers kids, but as for the brother and parents, they're reaping what they sow. If there was a way to just help the kids, maybe do that. If the brother had changed somewhat, maybe him too. But he hasn't, and bringing the brother back is just tossing a bomb into your own family. Reply 541
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    Font - diminishingpatience. 6 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [21] NTA. Never. You are not turning your back on innocent children - this is sickening emotional blackmail. Your parents have obviously enabled this behaviour over the years but want you to pay the price for it. They chose to have him but you did not. He is their problem. 754 Reply Share
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    Font - DancinginHyrule 6 hr. ago ΝΤΑ I feel bad for those kids, I really do. But nothing you can do will help them, because their father comes attached to them and he WILL sabotage even the best of attempts. No matter what you do, your help will not reach those children. Hold your ground. 682 Reply Share
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    Font - Now Villager 6 hr. ago . NTA. They're right that the kids are innocent (and look what they have for their sole parent), but he has help from your parents and refused it from his wife's parents, so he's not helpless. I'm sure it's hard for him, especially if he's in the habit of lying when he doesn't like reality, but you're absolutely right that he needs to experience consequences to make him face up to things. 289 Reply Share
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    Goggles - Maximum-Ear1745 6 hr. ago . NTA, your brother sounds potentially dangerous. You saw this years ago. He is not your responsibility 230 Reply Share
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    Font - /p> 5] CaroSCP 6 hr. ago Certified Proctologist [29] They turned their back on you when you were innocent and subjected to his lies. NTA. They are reaping what they collectively sowed. Not great for the children but not your fault & not your responsibility. 201 Reply Share
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    Font - Œ LookAtNarnia · 6 hr. ago. edited 6 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [30] NTA. If you really want to help, tell them you'll take the kids on the condition that the kids will never see their father again, but you could just tell them to give the kids to their mother's parents, too. Tell them you are thinking the kids above anything, and the best thing for the children is to live far away from their father without any contact. You will not enable their father to ruin the kids' life by staying i
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